One way or another, we all live in cages. We’re like prisoners of our own mind.
The cages I’m talking about are the beliefs we hold about our lives. Beliefs like how much we can achieve, how far we can go in our careers, how much abundance we can attract to our lives.
Do you ever tell yourself these things?
- “I can’t tell the truth because I may get judged…”
- “I don’t want to get close to this person because my heart will get broken…”
- “I don’t want to ask for what I want because I might get rejected…”
- “I can’t trust people because I’ve been betrayed before…”
- “I can’t pursue my dreams because I don’t know what I’d do if I fail…”
There’s a word for statements like these. They’re called limiting beliefs or mental cages.
Here’s a resource that addresses the 7 main limiting beliefs like this and offers a replacement belief to embrace instead.
It’s been said that the words we use create our reality, and there is some truth to that.
For instance, there’s a language of limiting beliefs.
“I can’t, I shouldn’t, I won’t, I don’t, I must or must not, It should be…”
For a longer list, go here.
» What are limiting beliefs? by changingminds.org
These words are much more than just excuses, they’re mental viruses which have been implanted in us since childhood. From our experiences, education, and even fear.
Just like how your computer needs to be wiped of its memory when it gets a virus, you have to clear the language of limiting beliefs from your own vocabulary.
Here are 4 steps to help you do that from psychology today.
» 4 Steps to Release “Limiting Beliefs” Learned From Childhood by Matt James Ph.D.
Step 1: Write the limiting belief down. Play detective and follow your thoughts and emotions to discover the limiting beliefs that hold you back. Put them on paper and stare them in the face! Take note how strong each belief is and what emotions they bring up in you.
Step 2: Acknowledge that these are beliefs, not truths! This is often the hardest step. “But, but, my limitations are real!” Here’s the place where choice comes in. Which are you more interested in defending your limitations to the death or achieving your goals and desires? As author Evelyn Waugh wrote, “When we argue for our limitations, we get to keep them.” You choose.
Step 3: Try on a different belief. Use your imagination and try on a belief that is aligned with what you want. It might be something like, “My financial difficulties in the past have taught me so much that I’m fully prepared to handle them now!” Or, “Now that I’ve been in an unhealthy relationship I’ve learned what to look for in a happy, loving partner!”
The trick is to go beyond just saying it. You want to really step into this new belief and feel how it feels. Done thoroughly, Steps 2 and 3 will go a long way to dismantling your old limiting decision.
Step 4: Take different action. This might feel scary, but act as if your new belief is true. In other words, if you really are the kind of woman to run a successful business, how would you act during client sessions? What steps might you take to increase sales? If you really are capable and have learned a tremendous amount from past financial difficulties, what new decisions might you make instead? If you really are the kind of person who eats healthy food, what will you put in your grocery cart?
If you avoid taking any steps based on your new belief, you will just feed your old limiting belief. Taking action, even the smallest step, will help solidify your new expanding (un-limiting) belief. Your first steps don’t have to be perfect, just headed in the right direction for you. And be sure to acknowledge yourself when you’ve taken that step.
Here’s the thing about these language patterns…
They’re definite signals that you’re not living up to your full potential.
Because someone who is really following their calling and living according to their purpose does not think or talk this way.
The absolute best way to finally uncage your life is to discover what your true calling is and then do everything you can to live it.
Here’s a link to what Oprah had to say on How to Find Your Calling by asking yourself 4 simple questions.
Now you have all the information you need to get started living to your fullest potential.
If you need help coming up with an action plan to banish these limiting beliefs, here’s how I can help you.
Thanks for reading.
Many Blessings & Many Smiles,